The Trauma Veil
How to give yourself grace for “poor” choices
Hindsight is 20/20. We hear that all the time. However, that may not prevent you from making similar choices that created the circumstances the hindsight potentially revealed.
“I’ll never do that again” is the vow. And months later, you find yourself in the same type of situation. The characters changed, the plot remained the same. How does that happen? You may even ask yourself, “how did I end up here again?”
Decisions are made through the veil of trauma until that trauma is healed.
Consciously, you know what you want and maybe even what you don’t want. However, there’s something blocking and keeping what you want just out of reach.
Let’s take building wealth as an example. You want to be financially free. You take the steps needed to get yourself to that place. And inevitably, something major happens that causes a set back. And you find you have to shell out all that money you have been saving. And the cycle repeats. What is that?
Another common experience shows up in relationships. You know what you want in a partner on a conscious level. Yet, you keep falling for or ending up with the kind of person you don’t want. How does that keep happening?
Overeating is another that has shown up. Consciously, someone wants to be healthy and fit. Yet attempts to be consistent with a practice that supports that desire consistently fail. What’s happening here?
The trauma veil is causing you to keep you where you are, where it’s safest. A trauma veil, first, I’m not sure it’s a real term, it’s what came to mind as I was contemplating how to share what I’ve learned over the years working on myself and with clients.
What I am calling the trauma veil is the unconscious subscriptions that contradict our conscious desires and leads to inadvertent self-sabotage.
What does that have to do with the three scenarios mentioned? Clients I’ve worked with have gotten in their own way without realizing it. By the way, I’m not immune to this, I still find ways I’ve gotten in my way of achieving something I wanted. It’s part of the human condition with layers of stuff coming to the surface when you’re strong enough to process them.
I digress, to keep this article short, I’ll share the biggest unconscious subscription that consistently shows up in even my most successful clients. And this doozy of a subscription has the power to affect all 3 scenarios mentioned above. It’s unworthiness. The unconscious belief (subscription) that you don’t deserve, didn’t earn, aren’t doing enough, etc will prevent you from fully taking the necessary steps to get what you truly want. That’s not the only one but that’s been the biggest and most recurring one.
Great! Now that you know that, what do you do with that information? Right, this is where the grace comes in. This is the part where you sit back, take a deep breath, and really give yourself some love for not knowing you were operating from a place that was not aligned with where you were going. This is where you cease judging your decisions and recognize there’s something deep down that has been trying to keep you safe but also contradicts your goals.
Now that you’ve come to a place of acceptance and grace, you can start doing the work to get your unconscious in alignment with your conscious. There are different ways to do that. Affirmations, therapy, energy work, books, courses, workshops, etc. I personally use a method I’ve created called the Energy Alignment System Express (EASE) because it creates the shift immediately.
No matter what route you decide to take to heal, make sure you make that journey a priority. It has the power to change your life!
Thank you for reading. I hope this article has served you or someone you know and inspired you to take action. Most importantly, I hope it has given you permission to let yourself off the hook at least just a tad (because I get it).
Lastly, if you’d like to learn more about creating an amazing transformational shift in your life with EASE, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation with me by clicking HERE.
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